and I think the fear is setting in..... fear of not being able to cope, stressing about little things.... mood swings.... scared of the labour..... OMG.... it's starting to hit me that we'll have another bub in the house and I know it's all going to be a shock to the system and a very rocky road.... it's already started being like that :(
Did I mention that I went to the doctor's on Monday???? well I was told I needed another glucose test, because the first is abnormal - so did that yesterday.... I was also told that the baby is breech at the moment.... but there is plenty of time for her to turn....
I'll find out about the test at the end of the week I hope, and my next Dr appointment is in 3 weeks time.....
ANYWAY....
How your baby's growing:
Your baby's about 15.7 inches long now, and she weighs almost 3 pounds (like a head of cabbage).
A pint and a half of amniotic fluid surrounds her, but that volume will
decrease as she gets bigger and takes up more room in your uterus. Her
eyesight continues to develop, though it's not very keen; even after
she's born, she'll keep her eyes closed for a good part of the day.
When she does open them, she'll respond to changes in light but will
have 20/400 vision — which means she can only make out objects a few
inches from her face. (Normal adult vision is 20/20.)
See what your baby looks like this week.
Note:
Every baby develops a little differently — even in the womb. Our
information is designed to give you a general idea of your baby's
development.
How your life's changing:
You may be feeling a little tired these days, especially if you're having trouble sleeping. You might also feel clumsier than normal,
which is perfectly understandable. Not only are you heavier, but the
concentration of weight in your pregnant belly causes a shift in your
center of gravity. Plus, thanks to hormonal changes, your ligaments are
more lax, so your joints are looser, which may also contribute to your
balance being a bit off. Also, this relaxation of your ligaments can
actually cause your feet to spread permanently, so you may have to
invest in some new shoes in a bigger size.
Remember those mood swings
you had earlier in pregnancy? The combination of uncomfortable symptoms
and hormonal changes can result in a return of those emotional ups and
downs. It's normal to worry about what your labor will be like or
whether you'll be a good parent. But if you can't shake the blues or
feel increasingly irritable or agitated, talk to your doctor or
midwife. You may be among the 1 in 10 expectant women who battle depression during pregnancy. Also let your caregiver know if you're frequently nervous or anxious.
Searching for a pediatrician
"I realized that finding a good pediatrician would be at least as
important as finding a good doctor or midwife, so I started my search
early. I asked my midwife and her assistant, the workers,
administrators and mothers at two daycare centers, and my local
hospital's referral center for recommendations. The two practitioners
whose names came up most often were the ones I interviewed." —Anonymous
Surprising Facts: Common labor fears
Are you nervous about giving birth? You're not alone! Here are some common fears and how to cope with them.
• I won't be able to handle the pain.
One
in five expectant moms says this is her top third-trimester fear,
according to a BabyCenter poll. Some women know ahead of time that they
will want pain-relieving medication during labor and, in fact, most women do end up opting to have an epidural. Others are committed to giving birth without drugs.
They accept potential for pain and discomfort and learn techniques to
help them manage it. With the right preparation and support, some women
find natural childbirth deeply satisfying and empowering.
• I'll need an episiotomy or I'll tear.
An episiotomy
is a surgical cut in the muscular area between your vagina and anus
(the perineum) which is performed right before delivery to enlarge your
vaginal opening. Some women tear spontaneously
in this area during delivery — even with an episiotomy — and the tears
can range from almost undetectable to severe, requiring a significant
number of stitches to repair. Once nearly standard, episiotomies are on
the decline and experts now agree that the procedure shouldn't be done
routinely. Talk to your practitioner about how often and under what
conditions she performs episiotomies and how she might help you avoid
one, or tearing. There's some evidence that you'll be less likely to
need stitches if you start massaging your perineum about five weeks before your due date.
• I'll have a bowel movement during labor.
In
a recent BabyCenter poll, 70 percent of women said they were afraid
they'd poop while giving birth, 39 percent said they actually did, and
of those, only 22 percent were embarrassed by it. Though it's hard to
believe now, if you do have a bowel movement while you're pushing, no
one will blink an eye. Your caregivers will clean it up possibly even
before you know what's happened.
• I'll be steamrolled into unnecessary medical interventions.
The
best way to deal with this fear is to have a frank conversation with
your practitioner. If you trust and respect your doctor or midwife, you
can rest assured that she'll be doing her best for you and your baby on
the day of delivery. If she's aware of your wishes and preferences
(consider writing a birth plan), she can do her best to adhere to them.
Another way to ease this fear is to hire a doula — a professional labor assistant — to attend your birth. She can be your advocate at the hospital.
• I'll have to have a c-section.
Since one in five women giving birth for the first time ends up having a c-section
to deliver her baby, this fear is understandable. If you have your
heart set on a vaginal birth, ending up with a c-section can be
disappointing. Some moms say they feel cheated out of a vaginal birth,
especially if they took childbirth classes and fantasized about the
"ideal birth," or if they feel that their c-section wasn't really
necessary. Others say they feel as if they're somehow less of a woman
because they needed a c-section. If you have these feelings, it may
take some time to reconcile the reality of your birth experience with
what you'd imagined during your pregnancy. It might help to know that
many women find their babies' births, whether vaginal or c-section,
very different from what they expected.
• I won't make it to the hospital on time.
Emergency home deliveries are extremely unusual, especially with first babies. But if you can't shake this fear, check out our emergency home birth instructions so you'll have an idea of what it involves.